“Relationship is not characterized by
harmony, but by continuous rupture and repair.”
-- Jessica Benjamin
We pick our partners for very specific reasons, using distinct incompatibilities as well as chemistry and a desire to settle down defining our choice. Developing the curiosity and empathy needed to bridge the gap created by these incompatibilities can be achieved by attending to three things: an exploration of your family of origin atmosphere, the circumstances around how you first met, and the occasion of your first good fight. Exploring these and the interface created where one stubborn, frustrated, self-righteous spouse butts up against his/her stubborn, frustrated, self-righteous chosen partner allows us to unearth the gold that’s there to fund the long-haul.